7 Must Read Books To Stop Putting Others Before Yourself

You matter most. Stop pouring so much onto others, and neglecting yourself. Heal now before you're running on an empty tank....

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Real Love: The Art Of Mindful Connection, $12

Real Love is a creative tool kit of mindfulness exercises and meditation techniques that help you to truly engage with your present experience and create deeper love relationships with yourself, your partner, friends and family, and with life itself.

Sharon Salzberg, a leading expert in Lovingkindness meditation, encourages us to strip away layers of negative habits and obstacles, helping us to experience authentic love based on direct experience, rather than preconceptions. Across three sections, Sharon explains how to dispel cultural and emotional habits, and direct focused care and attention to recapture the essence of what it is to love and be loved.

With positive reflections and practices, Sharon teaches us how to shift the responsibilities of the love that we give and receive to rekindle the powerful healing force of true connection. By challenging myths perpetuated by popular culture, we can undo the limited definitions that reduce love to simply romance or passion, and give the heart a much needed tune-up to connect ourselves to the truest experience of love in our daily lives.

You Do You, by Sarah Knight, $12

Being yourself should be easy, yet too many of us struggle to live on other people's terms instead of our own. Rather than feeling large and in charge, we feel little and belittled.

Sound familiar? Bestselling "anti-guru" Sarah Knight has three simple words for you: YOU DO YOU.

It's time to start putting your happiness first -- and stop letting other people tell you what to do, how to do it, or why it can't be done. And don't panic! You can do it without losing friends and alienating people. Knight delivers her trademark no-bullsh*t advice about:

• The Tyranny of "Just Because"

• The social contract and how to amend it

• Turning "flaws" into strengths -- aka "mental redecorating"

• Why it's not your job to be nice

• Letting your freak flag fly

• How to take risks, silence the doubters, and prove the haters wrong

The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck, $12

Are you stressed out, overbooked, and underwhelmed by life? Fed up with pleasing everyone else before you please yourself? It's time to stop giving a f*ck.

This brilliant, hilarious, and practical parody of Marie Kondo's bestseller The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up explains how to rid yourself of unwanted obligations, shame, and guilt -- and give your f*cks instead to people and things that make you happy. The easy-to-use, two-step NotSorry Method for mental decluttering will help you unleash the power of not giving a f*ck about:

• Family drama

• Having a "bikini body"

• Iceland

• Co-workers' opinions, pets, and children

• And other bullsh*t!

10% Happier, by Dan Harris, $14

After having a nationally televised panic attack on Good Morning America, Dan Harris knew he had to make some changes. A lifelong nonbeliever, he found himself on a bizarre adventure involving a disgraced pastor, a mysterious self-help guru, and a gaggle of brain scientists. Eventually, Harris realized that the source of his problems was the very thing he always thought was his greatest asset: the incessant, insatiable voice in his head.

We all have an inner narrator. It’s what has us losing our temper unnecessarily, checking our email compulsively, eating when we’re not hungry, and fixating on the past and the future at the expense of the present. Most of us assume we’re stuck with this voice—that there’s nothing we can do to rein it in—but Harris stumbled upon an effective way to do just that.

10% Happier is now considered a classic text on the power of meditation, an introduction to the practice that can convert even the most hardened skeptic.  With over a million copies sold, 10% Happier is the go-to guide, and with meditation now a widely accepted and encouraged practice, Dan Harris is a pivotal and approachable figure in the field who has built a thriving platform based on the ideas he first presented in this book.

All That You Deserve, by Jacqueline Whitney, $17

You deserve to wholeheartedly love yourself and your life. You deserve to break free from your past and the hurt it has held you in for too long. You deserve to find whole healing and full freedom from any darkness that tries to take your light. You deserve to finally find the peace your soul has been searching for. You deserve to see yourself as someone who is beautiful–– you wouldn’t be here if you weren’t meant to be precisely the person you are. You deserve to be loved by someone who loves you with unconditional love––the kind of love you have always dreamed of. I hope you never tell yourself that you are worth nothing because you are worth everything. Sometimes life is beautiful and then unimaginably difficult, but that doesn’t mean it won’t be beautiful again. You can’t wait until life doesn’t hurt anymore to choose to believe you deserve more. You can’t wait until you feel ready to start stepping towards your dreams. You deserve to find everything you’re looking to get out of this precious life. More than anything I just hope you know that you deserve to be here, now. The world would never be the same without you.

Let Go Of The Guilt, by Valorie Burton, $12

Even women who feel fulfilled often struggle to meet the demands of modern life. Both working and stay-at-home moms agree that the expectations of women have risen dramatically in recent decades.

As a result, many women overcompensate and over-apologize while the guilt dampens the joy of motherhood, relationships, and professional accomplishments. Let Go of the Guilt helps you peel back the layers of emotional, cultural, and spiritual expectations that make it difficult to navigate your multiple roles, dreams, and daily demands on your life.

Through her signature self-coaching process, powerful questions, and practical research, Valorie Burton shows you how to:

• Recognize and overcome the five thought patterns of guilt

• Break the surprising habit that tempts you to subconsciously choose guilt over joy,

• Stop guilt from sneaking its way into your everyday decisions and interactions,

• Flip those guilt trips so you can keep others from manipulating you, and

• Stop setting yourself up for stress, anxiety, and obligation, and instead set yourself for a life of joy and freedom

Ask And It Is Given, by Esther and Jerry Hicks (Abraham Hicks), $10

Ask and It Is Given, the pivotal manifestation and law of attraction book by Esther and Jerry Hicks, presents the inspirational teachings of the nonphysical entity Abraham, to help you learn how to manifest your desires so that you’re living the joyous and fulfilling life you deserve.
 
This empowering book will show you how to feel good now and as you read, you’ll come to understand how your relationships, health issues, finances, career concerns, and more are influenced by the Universal laws that govern your time/space reality—and you’ll discover powerful manifesting processes that will help you go with the positive flow of life.