The Beginning Of A New Soul Foundation - Review of Chapters 1 - 12 of "This Is How You Heal" by Brianna Wiest
The start of authentic alignment...
I’ll start by saying that Brianna Wiest has a way to instantly tune out everything else around you, and make you feel that her words were only written for you, and about you. That’s how much her writing resonates with everyone and their experiences. In my opinion, it’s way more personal and impactful than talk therapy.
The first 12 chapters deconstruct your perceptions and programs plugged into you by society. It puts many things into perspective, and begins to adjust your views and opinions so they align with your true self.
Quote Highlight From Ch. 2
“What if, instead of believing that you have failed, you began to recognize that failure is just life’s way of moving you in another direction.”
Letting Go Is A Big Way To Start Healing
I don’t think we realize just how much baggage we pack on within us throughout our lives. From people pleasing in exchange for acceptance or approval, to just settling for moments and things. With time, all we do with this, is stepping farther away from who we truly are. Hence, a self sabotage of our life’s purpose.
It’s The Little Things…
Brianna Wiest is a strong believer in making small changes daily, as opposed to big changes over time in order to heal correctly (“micro-healing practices”). She concludes that those tiny adaptations and integrations of joy and positive change in your life provide with so much more abundance than those big or sudden changes. It truly is about taking things step by step, and being consistent with it. The consistency is where the gold of healing lives. For me personally, I have witnessed this and know it to be very true. The path of inconsistency and impatience leads to Nowheresville every time. So, be patient, but never give up, friend❤️
Some of my personal favorite micro-healing suggestions from the book:
Unfollow every single person who makes you feel bad about yourself.
Recognize that whatever bothers you most about other people can reveal the unconscious truth about yourself ——use these discomforts as opportunities to heal your own invisible wounds.
Meditate on how far you’ve come. Make a list of all the things you have, do, and feel that you have never imagined would be possible.
It’s Not Starting Over, It’s A New Beginning
When life puts us on an opposite path of what we have been wanting so badly, we tend to interpret it as an ending (and a slap in the face). But, in reality it’s the beginning of a new, better, and aligned direction. Brianna, explains the reason we feel like it’s all crashing down on us during this redirection, is because it’s a transformative shift. It comes in full throttle, so we may experience a little turbulence —— but the destination will always be worth it.
Quote Highlight
It’s realizing that your inner love is inherent to you and always has been, it’s just been buried behind doubt.
It’s realizing that your path forward is innate to you and always has been, it’s just been hiding behind denial.
The 8 Phases of Deep Personal Transformation
This is because we often don’t think to change our lives until change is the only option we have.
Many of us are either too stubborn or don’t know how to read the signs and recognize the nudges we receive. We are quick to victimize ourselves, as opposed to answering the call, and initiating the move for changes in our lives. This applies to the phrase, “it always gets darker, before it gets brighter”. But does that have to be true? NOPE, it doesn’t.
Many times the doors that close for us are just redirections, so that we go back where we came from and go towards the path that serves our highest good. Our mind is too fixated on a 2D reality, which impedes the ability to see all the magical ways the world and destiny join forces to guide us towards what is really meant for us.
7 Psychological Biases That Are Making You Resist Your Own Growth
Sure, everyone evolves and adapts over time, but if you aren’t intentional about it, you’ll end up the product of who and what is around you as opposed to an authentic expression of who you really are.
Saying it, and doing it are two different things. There are people that begin to heal, awaken, and put in the work for a new and better version of themselves, but then some time in, they forget all they have learned and scrunch back to the former version of themselves. Self development is a daily job…more so, it’s a daily gift that we get to receive regularly if we fully commit to it.
Talk is cheap, and always steers you backwards in life, never forward.
One of best sections of this chapter was when Brianna speaks of “Upper Limit” —— A concept from Gay Hendricks’ author of the The Big Leap.
Upper Limit Theory:
His theory is that people have a predisposed tolerance for happiness, and when your emotions exceed that limit, we begin to unconsciously self-sabatoge in order to bring ourselves back to a more comfortable baseline.
In a nutshell, many people fear “too much” happiness, because they just think it’s too good to be true, or that soon it will all disappear because happiness at such a high degree doesn’t exist.
The way I see it, being in harmony with your peace and happiness just means that you’re nailing your daily task of self development and continuous evolvement. That is what we all came here for, to live, learn, and grow. So, there is absolutely no reason to fear abundance and happiness. Be proud instead, you’re simply winning at the game of life, and happiness is the signal letting you know you’re on track…keep going!
Final Thoughts
I don’t want to make this too long. I know I have covered a lot in this newsletter. But, I definitely don’t plan for future Untangled Newsletters to be this long. I got an early start reading this book, and I just couldn’t resist turning more and more pages —- it’s that good and so transformative! So, next newsletter will only cover up to three chapters - making it a brief and more digestible read.
The start of this book sets a massive foundation towards authentic healing. I have been feeling so at ease and joyful reading this book so far. IMO, it has been way better than talk therapy for me. It puts so much clarity in your mind, and shifts all the pieces of life into place, so that your your perception is balanced and not biased.
Until next time, let’s continue reading “This Is How You Heal”!
Let me know what you think of the first few chapters by commenting below! Also feel free to discuss via chat!
